How to say no without hurting

 if you have difficulty saying "no" and always trying to be nice to others at the expense of yourself - you are not alone. Many people are not good at saying "no" because they are afraid to hurt other person's feelings. But saying yes when you need to say no causes burnout. Thinking you are a bad person for saying no is a symptom of "the disease to please."

But the good news is you can say "no" to anyone, even a closest friend, without being rude or feeling guilty about it.


At the end of the day, it’s about how you say “no”, rather than the fact you’re saying no, that affects the outcome. Here's how to do it:

1. Be Reasonable

Be firm, calm, and clear. Explain why you are saying "no". Maybe, you have a tough week, or it doesn’t meet your needs, or you are not the best person to do this. Be honest, especially with close friends, and they will understand. But remember, that you owe nothing to anyone, so you don't have to explain all the circumstances and your full life story.

2.   Proposed an alternative Way

Maybe You cannot help the person yourself in a way he is asking you, but you can think of someone who would help or something you could do.
It's nice to be nice but knowing when and how to say no is crucial to your sanity.